To be a candid person without insulting helps if you have emotional intelligence. Then one can speak truth without hurting someone’s feelings. Yet, the person also has to be ready to receive the truth.
A man held out an empty milk jug inches from the water. He stared at his truck across the road where his wife sat.
A woman came to get a cup of the natural water and said, “Sir, you might want to step closer to the water to fill your jug.”
The man placed his hand over his chest and said, “I’s sorry, did you say something to me.”
“Are you alright? You look pale. Is your heart okay?” The woman asked.
“No, I’m not alright? And, no, my heart isn’t okay. ” The man pointed to his truck. “I just learned my wife has cancer. She loves this spring water. I came to get some for her with the hope to cheer her. Maybe she will bloom a smile for me, once she gets a drink.”
The woman said, “She will smile if she can feel your happiness. Let me tell you a joke to help you release your stress.”
While the man filled his milk jug, the woman told him the joke. He laughed so hard that he over filled the milk jug and wet his pants with the spilled water.
Before the man cross the road, he said to the woman, “My wife will not only have a smile on her face, but laugh at me, not from my joy, but from my stupidity.” He laughed all the way to his truck.
What is Emotional Intelligence?
E.I. is the ability for a person to identify and manage their own feelings as well as those of others. They can walk into a room and know not only the dynamics of the group in that particular place, but can identify people and their masked feelings. E.I. people are like radars. They home in to distressed souls and are compelled to help them relax and enjoy themselves like the others in the room.
People with this IQ are very sensitive people, but they don’t wear their emotions on their sleeves. They are normally quiet, stay to themselves. At social events they prefer no more than two other individuals to be around them. Individuals with this trait gravitate to younger kids or much older people than themselves. They don’t say much and are usually happy and content.
Emotional intelligent men, woman or children can’t be around people for long or they get overwhelmed. They are private individuals. Once, they feel safe or comfortable they will talk and tell you very interesting facts and stories. Apathy along with compassion are strong attributes of their personality.
Some E.I. people didn’t learn how to manage the over sensory of emotions. Their brain becomes flooded with other’s emotions especially sadness, hurts and pain when they enter a clouded room. Therefore they become socially awkward, antisocial or extremely quiet to the point that someone who knows them will begin to speak for them. But once they leave the room, they can tell you how certain people were feeling without the individuals giving any verbal or body cues. These E.I children, teens and adults are actually reading an emotion whom they themselves are very familiar with.
Because of their ability to be place them selves in the other’s person circumstances, E.I. people can be very compassionate individuals. They feel when you are in physical or emotional pain and/or mentally or spiritually stressed.
We all have this ability. While some have a natural talent, the rest of us can acquire these skill, by practicing being aware of our own feelings and acknowledging them. Then we can understand those who are feeling the same way. It’s as if their feeling awaken a similar feeling within us. As a Christian, we are asked to be compassionate and practice apathy to all, as Jesus shows us the same extended care and concern.
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