“Put up with one another. Forgive. Pardon any offenses against one another, as the Lord has pardoned you, because you should act in kind.” Colossians 3:13 (The Voice)
To put up with one another, one has to have a triple tune-up; in the heart, of the mind and from the attitude. In order to get the tune up, one must go to the best adjuster. I only know of one, Jesus.
Many times we need more than a tune-up to put up with those we love.The following also may need to be looked at:
1) A total overhaul. There could be major repairs to be considered which have been overlooked for years. Like years, 10, 20, 30 maybe even since childhood.
2) A quick refurbish. They may only be the need of an adjustment. The stress from a new job, newborn baby, low bank account, high credit card bill. Or just plainly the stress of marriage, parenting, or any other relationship along with the stresses mention above.
3) A costly remodel. This means a major fix up. What once worked is no longer working. People grow, mature, change revealing the need of new ways to deal with the present circumstances while others are stagnant, stuck, stubborn. It’s costly because most of us like the way we deal with others and feel the other person should change and not us. Well, think again! This is where it will cost, when we are the ones who must be remodel and we aren’t willing. God help us!
4) A humble Patch up. Restoring is when something worked well, but now it has a tare, a crack, or a hole which been over looked. Time and wearing down caused some wear and tear. Now they’re noticeable with the need to be covered with the same agreements. Together the loop holes must be recognized allowing proper time for healing and restoration.
5) A true revise. Reworking is going back and starting all over again. But, the start begins with a changed plan. Starting again with the same agreements, which didn’t work to begin with, will only produce more frustrations. A revision will have to be made or the error will occur again and again. Honesty is best, even if it’s fearful. It’s pricey to be frank.
Relationships are hard work. Maintaince is a must. Tune ups of ourselves have to be made.
Sometimes, we just have to put ourselves in the shop with God and tell Him do the works on me.
We may need to take a sabbatical.
All this to say, forgive, forgive again, forgive seventy times seven.
Actually forgive as often as the person who turned the heat up in the realtionship to 80 while you were already sweating anger and frustration.
By the way, forgive yourself for storming to the person holding your dial.
Cause and effect goes both ways. They hurt you. You hurt them. Come together to God, if possible. Be pardon, then pardon. Remember we’re sinner just as much as the person who raise the heat on our thermostat.
Forgive. Forgive. Forgive.
Pardon. Pardon. Pardon.
Release. Release. Release.
So, put up with one another, as you are kind with your words, your actions and in your secret thoughts.
Pray often. Pardon always. Prosper with love.